As a senior navigating the college process, I finally find myself in the shoes of all the students who have come before me.
It’s a unique experience and an overwhelming one for all high school seniors because, for the first time in their lives, the possibility of being “rejected” from something becomes very real.
The emotional rollercoaster during this time is undeniable because of the constant discussions about where people got in and who didn’t. These conversations are mostly unintentional and arise from social media and commitment posts but this still ends up causing stress and disappointment for those who did not get into the schools they wanted.
As someone deferred from their dream school, I fully understand the frustration and confusion that comes with it. A deferral isn’t a flat-out no, but it’s not a yes either. It’s a gray area, and that uncertainty can feel draining.
However, I’ve learned that a deferral is not the end of the road,
and if anything it can be a new opportunity. It is a chance to share with the school any accomplishments made since they first read the initial application.
My biggest advice is to just take a moment, breathe, regroup, and not let the uncertainty and negative thoughts win. Everything genuinely happens for a reason, even as cliche as it sounds. There are so many schools and great options, so try not to put all of the eggs in one basket!
The next time a college letter is opened and it is not what was expected or hoped for, just know it means a step closer to finding where one truly belongs.
